Breathe In, Breathe Out

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In honor of-

  • All the lives lost due to terrorist attacks, violence and suicide
  • And the loved ones that mourn their losses
  • Transgender Day of Remembrance

One quick word about this- there shouldn’t have to be a day or a week or tribute flags on profile pictures. I’m not against any of these things. I understand and support all of them. My point is that it shouldn’t take a horrific act of violence to get anyone’s attention.

Transgender Day of Remembrance is one day, this year on Friday, November 20th, to honor all transgender people who were taken from us too soon. This is a problem of epic proportions and we need more than a day to bring awareness. We need more than a week. Click on the link to find out more. You will see a list of people who were killed. Way too many lives have been lost.

Suicide doesn’t play favorites. Instead it can be found in all walks of life. Anyone from celebrities to ever day dads can  battle demons none of us can imagine. If you need help or want to help out, you can contact the Suicide Prevention Lifeline. The Trevor Project supports LGBTQ youth in crisis.

Please keep the victims and their families in your thoughts and prayers. But also, don’t forget. This isn’t something you think about for one day. Let’s keep this in our hearts and minds for longer than a day or a week. It’s up to the living to make a difference.

“You may say I’m a dreamer. But I’m not the only one. I hope someday you’ll join us. And the world will be as one.”  -Imagine, John Lennon

This post is working double time as part of Writer’s Quote Wednesday and BeWoW. If you are unfamiliar with these great challenges, click on the names to check them out!


Keep On

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The past few weeks I have drifted and I have been pushed farther away from my blogging world that I am comfortable. I felt the distance growing as days turned into weeks and it was all I could do to eek out a post or two. I was behind in reading all of my favorite blogs. Photographs taken for upcoming photo challenges sat unused in their folders on my desktop. Post ideas fell by the wayside. I was not happy with the direction things were heading but I felt helpless.

I can give you all the excuses- I was preparing my house for my oldest son along with his family to move in indefinitely. I was needed to watch the baby. I had to attend my other two kids’ college family weekends. I had meetings. My best friend moved within days of my oldest son moving in. The list goes on and on.

Are these valid reasons for letting my blog drift away? Some would say maybe. Others would shout yes, lending me a supportive presence. And there could even be the ones who would just look at me with “that” look. The truth of the matter is that although I can understand where the maybe people and the shouting yes folks are coming from, I know that I’m in the camp with the LOOK people. It was their thoughts that echoed in my mind every time I thought of my blog.

Just in case you aren’t on that team, I can fill you in on what their messages were.

“If it’s important to you, you will make time for it.”

“You can’t sacrifice yourself completely to help others. You need to put yourself and your needs first occasionally.” 

“You are sending out the message that your ‘stuff’ is not as important as everyone else’s. if you don’t value it, then why should they?”

Let me be clear. My blog, among other pushed aside things, was not forgotten. In fact, it weighed heavily on my mind. Blog posts were writing themselves in my head—repeatedly. The mini-tantrum I threw when I was unable to fit a notebook that I couldn’t even find to purchase so it didn’t matter anyway into my purse because I forgot the bag I usually bring when I’m away and didn’t have a scrap of paper to scribble on was as much for my own sanity as anything else. After a drought, words were coming back to me and I didn’t want to lose them!

As I was trying to get back on my feet after the Kris scare and find a routine, I looked to my Blogging U classmates- Colleen (Silver Threading), Ronovan (Ronovan Writes) and Hugh (Hugh’s Views & News) for motivation, inspiration… And there they were, just as they have been since we all met in our blogging classes.

Until recently I was a regular participant in Writer’s Quote Wednesday, hosted by Colleen, and Be Wonderful on Wednesday, hosted by Ronovan. These challenges are both really awesome- separate, if quotes are more your thing than being wonderful or vice versa, and combined, they pack a bigger punch. Quotes have always inspired me and Colleen has taken this challenge to an even deeper level, which although I sometimes fail to meet, absolutely LOVE! And Ron’s BeWoW- encouraging bloggers to fill the blogosphere with positive thoughts combined with the quote bring even more meaning to both challenges.

And then there’s Hugh. Did you know that I won his Charity Christmas Tree Topper Challenge last December? Let’s talk about inspiration! He challenged bloggers to write about what is on top of their Christmas tree and in return he donated to Alzheimer’s research. The challenge was a huge success and I was honored to be chosen to write a guest post on Hugh’s blog. No, Hugh, I have not forgotten. I just hope the offer has not expired! And after an absence of sorts, I visited Hugh’s blog to find that he has kicked off Hugh’s Photo Challenge, one that I look forward to taking part in.

That Ronovan’s prompt for this week is “Perseverance” is quite timely for me. I see it as a sign. I could have let my blog lay there, shoved aside and somewhat forgotten, gathering dust (as it did when I first created it) or I could push through and just do it. I knew I wasn’t ready to let go of Dandelion Fuzz, not by a long shot. I might have been crawling there for awhile….and to some extent, I might still be but at least I’m moving forward. Of this I’m sure- when I sat down this morning to write this post I was tired and I was pushing myself to JUST DO IT. As I’ve sat typing, complete with interruptions which could have derailed me for the rest of the day- one call from school to pick up a first grader with possible pink eye and one cry out from a baby who woke up from his nap alone and needing assistance- but I didn’t and that’s largely due to Hugh, Ronovan and Colleen and their unknowing shove from behind. THANK YOU!

All of their challenges are open to everyone, so please take a look at their blogs (links are sprinkled throughout this post) and jump in! You’ll meet a lot of cool people and hopefully be inspired to join in.


The Love You Take

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My quote comes from the song, The End, by the Beatles. It was written by Paul McCartney and credited to the Lennon-McCartney duo, as almost all of their songs were. I’ve always felt that these words could be attributed to any avenue of life- be it family, relationships, writing, hobbies, careers or schools. Here is the song in its entirety.

And as an interesting little side note, Paul McCartney did a Saturday Night Live skit where Chris Farley interviews Paul. This song is mentioned. When my youngest son, Andrew, was in middle school he took part on the Declamation Team. One of his skits for competition was this one. (Andy played Paul.) The two pre-teens had the audience rolling on the floor with laughter. While I do not have video of Andrew’s performance, I shared a link to a video of the original skit from 1993.

The Chris Farley Show: Paul McCartney

Thanks for dropping in and be sure to head over to Silver Threading to find more inspiring quotes!

Writer’s Quote Wednesday- Write Now

wqw kingsolver 5.31While I may know nothing about Barbara Kingsolver, I do know how easy it is to have every intention of writing and have that time get sucked up doing a million other things. That is what has happened to me. I let the end of the year school madness pull me in and from there it went downhill. I kept waiting for the perfect time to jump back into writing. Of course, it never came.

My planner is filled with the themes for various challenges and reminders for the weekly challenges I enjoy participating in. I’ve grown frustrated and anxious as I look back over the past few weeks and see how few posts I’ve written. While there is no requirement for me to write and I’m sure you understand how hectic life can get, there’s more going on here than just me putting pressure on myself.

It’s me not carving out time for myself. It’s me putting everyone and everything before myself. And the truth is- I need to write. Even if I write gibberish that never sees the light of day. Even if I have 50 drafted posts that never get published. Even if I keep adding half formed thoughts in my notebook. I need to write. I can tell myself that if my ideas are that great, they’ll come back to me. But we know that it’s not true. The real truth is that the more you write, the more those creative juices get flowing and if you’re me- the happier you are. And you can’t sit around waiting for that time to make itself available. Sometimes you just need to DO IT. It’s time for me to take the words of the quote to heart and make time to write because the time is now.

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Writer’s Quote Wednesday- Mo Willems

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Mo Willems is an American writer, animator and creator of children’s books. He wrote Don’t Let the Pigeon Drive the Bus and other popular titles you might recognize if you’ve read books to kids in the last 10 years. You can read more about him-here.

So, I went over to baby-sit the little guys during the time overlapping Mommy heading off to work and Daddy coming home. I was sitting on the couch, burping little Beej, who does not give his burps up easily, when CJ sidled up to me dragging a stack of books with him. “Can you please read me a book?” he asked.

When I said that I would, he turned and started sorting through his pile. He pulled out Don’t Let the Pigeon Drive the Bus. The Pigeon Wants a Puppy, The Pigeon Finds a Hotdog, Don’t Let the Pigeon Stay Up Late, and Naked Mole Rat Gets Dressed followed. All Mo Willems books. And by the way, if you live in my hometown and plan on going to the library to look for any Pigeon books, CJ checked them all out of out and is having us all read the words right off the pages. By the time we got to the end of the first book, we were both smiling. As Pigeon’s antics continued through the books, it was such a joy to watch CJ’s reactions.

But back to the quote. Have you ever found yourself in the wrong story? I certainly have! I’ve looked around and realize that I’m somewhere that I’m not supposed to be. Is it as easy as just leaving? Sometimes it is. I know I’ve mentioned talked about things simplistically but the more I think about it, the more I’m convinced that it really is simple. We always have the capacity to make things as complicated as we want.

We make messes. We overthink. We overreact. We jump into stories where we don’t belong. We might do it to avoid something we don’t want to face in our own story. Or we might mean well and really be sticking our noses in where they don’t belong. Regardless, it is important to know what your story is and stay there.

I think it is an individual decision. You might ask for advice from a friend but when it comes down to it, it’s all up to you.

If you’re in the wrong story, leave.

This post is part of Writer’s Quote Wednesday hosted by Colleen at Silver Threading. You can click on the badge below to find a large variety of quotes from bloggers who participate from all over!

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