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Lessons Learned From Someone I Used to Know

There are no big revelations in this list. it’s been said before, heard before, lived before. But have you ever walked away from an experience and thought about what you’re taking away from it? A recent encounter reminded me of these things:

  • Family matters- even if you don’t want it to. They know where you came from. They know who you were.
  • Be careful who you trust. Sometimes you might be looking in the wrong direction and never see it coming.
  • It’s never too late to try and fix things. Words spoken in the heat of the moment might hold some truth, or maybe they are all true, but that still doesn’t mean that things have to remain broken.
  • As much as you might want to slam the door and lock it, it can always open. You have the power to unlock it!
  • Unless you hear the words coming from a person’s mouth, you will never know for sure if they said them. People twist or make up things to suit their own purpose- even people you love.
  • If you don’t want to believe what a person says, look at their actions for reinforcement.
  • There is more than one side to every story. Every person has their own story and your hero might be my  villain. You never know.
  • We all have “stuff” and no one’s is more or less than anyone else’s. It’s just theirs.
  • People can change and often do. We are all shaped by our experiences and each one changes us, maybe in small ways but always in some way.
  • Forgiveness is not a dirty word.
  • Letting go of negative feelings isn’t a statement of denial that something happened.
  • Often the truth is staring you in the face- and you just can’t or don’t want to see it.
  • And sometimes the truth hurts.
  • Everyone isn’t in the same place in their journey and sometimes we need to be patient and wait for the other person to catch up. And sometimes we need to do what we need to do, and know that we will get where we need to be in our own time.
  • If a person is determined to hold on to their hurt and anger and lets it fester and spread, they will remain stuck in that place.
  • Being wrongly accused sucks.
  • Not being allowed to defend yourself sucks more.
  • It ain’t over til it’s over.

“Life is not a problem to be solved, but a reality to be experienced.”     

Soren Kierkegaard

Spring has arrived…maybe in name only. Enjoy!


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What I Learned This Summer

It’s been a long summer for me and it wasn’t until this week that I feel like I finally got the point of it all. Relatives, email attacks and apples missing carts. I’ve gone through more in the last 3 months than I did in the last 3 years but I’m a better person because of it. And although all those lessons I learned might seem cliche, each and every one resonates deeply with me.

  1. It’s easy to be a friend to someone during good times. It’s a true test of the strength of a friendship when one of you is going through a major life change.
  2. Sometimes people don’t turn out to be who you thought they were.
  3. Sometimes, when you aren’t getting the message about said people, you may be presented with endless examples to help you accept it.
  4. And sometimes everything you need to know is sitting right in front of you and you will clearly see it if you just clear your head and open your eyes.
  5. While so many people pride themselves on being “good”, the same people often don’t understand the importance about being kind.
  6. Just because you value something, that doesn’t mean someone else does.
  7. Loyalty is something to treasure.
  8. True friends are few and far between.
  9. You should take time, every day, to count your blessings.
  10. Love is all you need!

What about you? Did you learn anything new this summer?

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We Can Learn a Few Things From Pooh


Winnie the Pooh is the creation of author A. A. Milne. He is a friendly honey-loving bear who lives in The Hundred Acre Woods with his friends- Piglet, Tigger, Eeyore, Christopher Robin and others. It is through Pooh’s adventures that he learns about life. The stories are simple, obviously having been written for a young audience but the lessons learned are much bigger.

We can learn a lot from that silly old bear-

Friends play an important role in Pooh’s life. By trial and error, he teaches us to cherish our friends, take care of each other and enjoy our time together.

It’s important to pay attention to details. This applies in all things- from communicating with others to watching where you are going. All it takes is one small oversight to find yourself headed in the wrong direction. Pooh’s love of honey and sometimes distracted air lands him in more than a few mishaps.

Sometimes it is better to think things through before acting and if you are unsure of what to do, go ahead and ask. There’s no thing as a silly question. Pooh reinforces this idea repeatedly when he is undecided and looking for some guidance.

We are all different. Piglet laments his small size. Tigger looks for other orange with black striped bouncy companions. In the end, they show us that it’s good to embrace those differences in ourselves as well as each other.

If you look hard enough, you can find goodness in anything. Eeyore loves to be gloomy but even he is able to find the positive…most of the time. 🙂

Sometimes the journey is more important than the destination- as Pooh shows us time and time again as he hunts down honey.

Pooh talks about love, especially with his pal, Piglet. It reinforces the importance of letting the important people in your life know that they do matter.

While Pooh often worries about a time when he might have to go on without his friends beside him, Christopher Robin’s words of wisdom are ones that ring true no matter what your age or situation-

“If ever there is tomorrow when we’re not together.. there is something you must always remember. You are braver than you believe, stronger than you seem, and smarter than you think. But the most important thing is, even if we’re apart.. I’ll always be with you.”

Each week, Ronovan from Ronovan Writes encourages us to Be Wonderful on Wednesday. Be sure to head over to his blog to check out his post by clicking on his blog name above and find other wonderful posts under the #BeWoW.


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Everything I Need to Know

Everything I Need to KnowWe have had this book for a few months now. It’s a book of life lessons written with pages out of Little Golden Books. My husband bought it because he knew I would like it and he was right. I’m quite nostalgic. I had some of those books when I was a child and so did our children.

Before you shake your head and walk away, give it some thought. Those Little Golden Books we read as kids did more than show us pretty pictures. Each one had a point. Some taught us morals. They made us happy.

Is it really that simple? Can life really be better if you follow these basic rules? Not that long ago I would have said no. I would have said no way. I would have told you that you need to analyze, think- think-think, problem-solve, prioritize…and yes, you do have to do those things but then there are times when all of that will be way too much and guess what? It’s those simple things that will get you through. 🙂

This post is part of Be Wonderful on Wednesday by Ronovan .Be sure to head over to his blog and read his post on being positive. You can find more wonderful posts at the tag- #BeWow