Fandango, over at This, That, and The Other posted the first of what I hope will be a continuing challenge of provocative questions.
“If you could be the opposite sex for one day, what would you do?”
As you may or may not know, I have a gender fluid child. That being said, this question really is provocative to me because it strikes a chord. Over the past seven years, I’ve had time to think about gender and what it means on so many different levels. Accepting that my middle child’s gender identity fluctuates and isn’t always 100% aligned with the female body she was given has been a learning process for me. I always thought gender was set in stone and you were either a girl or a boy. Now I know that is not the case.
This isn’t going to be a post debating thoughts on gender and a person’s gender identity. But I am applying my experience to my response.
I’m a girl. Plain and simple. Whether I’m dressed and made up or wearing my favorite jeans, hoodie and Converse, I’m always a girl. SO- if I was to wake up one day and I was a guy? Well, I would freak out! The thought of having all that HAIR and guy appendages just makes me shudder. Those things are fine on the guys I know but I sure don’t want them. And you can charge me with gender bias but those things I’ve grown (and been raised) to expect guys to do, I don’t want to do. I have no doubt that I could do them. What are those things to which I refer? I’m not even sure. Maybe the car stuff and some house maintenance….. I would just prefer not to do them. If I was a guy, would I also be relinquishing my responsibilities? But then, who would be doing them? How would they get done. Let me guess- they would be waiting for me (kids in crisis and all that fun) when I turned back into me, right?
Am I overthinking it? Since it’s me, probably.
But the bra…… I definitely would not miss the bra!