The past few weeks I have drifted and I have been pushed farther away from my blogging world that I am comfortable. I felt the distance growing as days turned into weeks and it was all I could do to eek out a post or two. I was behind in reading all of my favorite blogs. Photographs taken for upcoming photo challenges sat unused in their folders on my desktop. Post ideas fell by the wayside. I was not happy with the direction things were heading but I felt helpless.
I can give you all the excuses- I was preparing my house for my oldest son along with his family to move in indefinitely. I was needed to watch the baby. I had to attend my other two kids’ college family weekends. I had meetings. My best friend moved within days of my oldest son moving in. The list goes on and on.
Are these valid reasons for letting my blog drift away? Some would say maybe. Others would shout yes, lending me a supportive presence. And there could even be the ones who would just look at me with “that” look. The truth of the matter is that although I can understand where the maybe people and the shouting yes folks are coming from, I know that I’m in the camp with the LOOK people. It was their thoughts that echoed in my mind every time I thought of my blog.
Just in case you aren’t on that team, I can fill you in on what their messages were.
“If it’s important to you, you will make time for it.”
“You can’t sacrifice yourself completely to help others. You need to put yourself and your needs first occasionally.”
“You are sending out the message that your ‘stuff’ is not as important as everyone else’s. if you don’t value it, then why should they?”
Let me be clear. My blog, among other pushed aside things, was not forgotten. In fact, it weighed heavily on my mind. Blog posts were writing themselves in my head—repeatedly. The mini-tantrum I threw when I was unable to fit a notebook that I couldn’t even find to purchase so it didn’t matter anyway into my purse because I forgot the bag I usually bring when I’m away and didn’t have a scrap of paper to scribble on was as much for my own sanity as anything else. After a drought, words were coming back to me and I didn’t want to lose them!
As I was trying to get back on my feet after the Kris scare and find a routine, I looked to my Blogging U classmates- Colleen (Silver Threading), Ronovan (Ronovan Writes) and Hugh (Hugh’s Views & News) for motivation, inspiration…..help. And there they were, just as they have been since we all met in our blogging classes.
Until recently I was a regular participant in Writer’s Quote Wednesday, hosted by Colleen, and Be Wonderful on Wednesday, hosted by Ronovan. These challenges are both really awesome- separate, if quotes are more your thing than being wonderful or vice versa, and combined, they pack a bigger punch. Quotes have always inspired me and Colleen has taken this challenge to an even deeper level, which although I sometimes fail to meet, absolutely LOVE! And Ron’s BeWoW- encouraging bloggers to fill the blogosphere with positive thoughts combined with the quote bring even more meaning to both challenges.
And then there’s Hugh. Did you know that I won his Charity Christmas Tree Topper Challenge last December? Let’s talk about inspiration! He challenged bloggers to write about what is on top of their Christmas tree and in return he donated to Alzheimer’s research. The challenge was a huge success and I was honored to be chosen to write a guest post on Hugh’s blog. No, Hugh, I have not forgotten. I just hope the offer has not expired! And after an absence of sorts, I visited Hugh’s blog to find that he has kicked off Hugh’s Photo Challenge, one that I look forward to taking part in.
That Ronovan’s prompt for this week is “Perseverance” is quite timely for me. I see it as a sign. I could have let my blog lay there, shoved aside and somewhat forgotten, gathering dust (as it did when I first created it) or I could push through and just do it. I knew I wasn’t ready to let go of Dandelion Fuzz, not by a long shot. I might have been crawling there for awhile….and to some extent, I might still be but at least I’m moving forward. Of this I’m sure- when I sat down this morning to write this post I was tired and I was pushing myself to JUST DO IT. As I’ve sat typing, complete with interruptions which could have derailed me for the rest of the day- one call from school to pick up a first grader with possible pink eye and one cry out from a baby who woke up from his nap alone and needing assistance- but I didn’t and that’s largely due to Hugh, Ronovan and Colleen and their unknowing shove from behind. THANK YOU!
All of their challenges are open to everyone, so please take a look at their blogs (links are sprinkled throughout this post) and jump in! You’ll meet a lot of cool people and hopefully be inspired to join in.
Kat, this is one of your best posts yet (and I’m not saying that because I am included in the post). It’s honest, it’s open, and it speaks volume. I’m hoping that not only writing the post but asking yourself every now and again why you wrote it, helps. The only thing I would add is to perhaps invite a guest author to write a post or two for you when life means you can’t write (like Ronovan recently did for me when I took time out to deal with the death of my mother). Otherwise, think about some re-blogging.
Is the invite to write that guest post still open? Yes, yes, yes! I never push anyone for the post I have asked them to write for me because I know from my own experience that there are more important things that happen and that need our full attention at times. Write it when you are ready to do so and never think that you will let someone down by saying “no” or by taking your time to write. Those that care will always be there. Those that don’t, will forget.
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I have truly been out of the blogging loop. I am so sorry for the loss of your mother, Hugh!
Thank you so much for the advice! See, that’s just one more reason why I appreciate having you as a friend! I would have never thought of having a guest poster (that’s not right! Guest blogger!) or re-blogging and I’m usually just a little bit smarter than that!!!
I am thrilled to hear that my opportunity to guest post is still open. I have been tossing around a few ideas in my head. 🙂
Thank you so much for everything! 🙂
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Hi Kat. I have been struggling with the same thing as of late. Thank you for the post and the inspiration!
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You’re welcome! I hope you find your motivation and keep writing! ( As for me, I need to listen to my own advice. I proceeded to fall off the face of the earth immediately after publishing that post!) 🙂
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Hang in there Kat! I understand. I’m questioning my own sanity right now. I signed up for the NANoWriMo and am terrified!
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I need to get over there and sign up….. not that I have any clue what I’m writing about!! Is this your first year doing NaNo?
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Yes, this is my first year. I’ve got an idea starting to form. We’ll see.
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Good luck! As the clock ticks down, I’m getting a bit panicky but I’m sure I’ll come up with something. 🙂
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Me too!!
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You are showing you age, Kat. Your phone surely has an app to make notes? 😀 But I know, I prefer the paper notes too. Take care.
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Oh gosh, don’t think that I haven’t done that in the past and didn’t consider it this time. lol I also had to consider saving my phone’s battery because I wanted to record his performance and take as many pictures of him as I could. (That’s my excuse, at least…..)
I actually have done notes on my phone- I even dictated an entire post while I was driving. That’s when I learned that I need to enunciate!!! 🙂
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Tipping my hat to you, then, Kat! 🙂
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This was a great post and something I have been going through lately. It has been a drought on my blog – words sitting in draft, images waiting to be inspired. I am a silent reader on my favorite blogs but I feel so exhausted to comment! Thoughts are there to pen down but the minute I do, my muse deserts me. I have my own set of excuses ranging from deadlines to illness and travel but they sound sad. Now I am trying consciously to get back on the line, maybe my earlier self will take over.
Good luck 🙂
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Good luck to you, too! I have found that forcing myself to keep going has been really helpful. It really is a habit that needs to be formed again. I have also tried to lighten up just a little and not beat myself up over the entire thing.
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All I have to add to the great post and wonderful advice is just ((hugs))
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Thanks!!! 🙂
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Good post. Honesty is what it is about. I recently stopped blogging on my pet blog and plan to close it. I just had too many blogs going at one time and found I loved the poetry, writing and mental health blogs were where I belonged. So we all go through periods of reevaluation. 🙂
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Susan, I think it’s important to listen to that inner voice. We start blogging with perhaps a mental picture of what we want it to be but that’s not always what it ends up being. 🙂
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Sending you a hug ❤️ must also say when I read this it reminded me off the card I drew for this weeks guidance, look within and trust yourself to be worthy of your own time 🙏🏻☺️💕
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Hugs back to you too! I really did need to pull this from within. The push from the friends helped complete the movement. 🙂
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This is really inspiring, Martin Lurther, sure knows how to motivate a person. Thanks for sharing this and it’s great to see you back.
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MLK really did know how to get you thinking and moving, right? And thank you!!! It feels really nice to be back. 🙂
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Reblogged this on ronovanwrites and commented:
A great post that encompasses a lot but in so short a space. You just never know what your doing and for whom you’re doing it for.
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I’m so thankful for the people in my life who inspire me. Thanks, Ron! And than you for reblogging! 🙂 I really do appreciate you!
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Taking action diligently and perseverance will get us far and closer to our dreams! Stay inspired.
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Most definitely!! 🙂
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