Last week I wrote about a visit from Navy Seals recruiters at my door- “Is Miss Kerri Carpita Home?” and I wanted to do a follow up.
After a few days of debating how to proceed and whether to call their 888 number or the local recruiting center, I made the call. I do realize it wasn’t that big of a decision. I was upset and afraid of what I was going to find out or worse- not find out.
I called the local recruiting center and the person who answered the phone was very patient as I stumbled through my explanation that someone had come knocking on my door asking for my child by a name that hadn’t been used in over 3 years. I explained that my child had legally changed their name and I had concerns about why this house call was made.
He, (the kind man who I cannot remember his title, rank, name….), said that sometimes they did visit someone at home if they were unreachable by phone. When I expressed my fear that this might be a practical joke (and a not nice one at that), he offered to look into the matter and get back to me.
A half hour later, seconds before I walked into a meeting with the superintendent, he called back.
Their records indicated that they were using information from a college list that had been distributed in 2011 (the year Kris graduated from high school). He explained that the Navy is trying to recruit more women and that’s why they looked back that far into their lists. He said he would remove Kris’s old name from their records and apologized for the inconvenience.
I walked into my meeting, sat down, took one look at the superintendent and cried. Thank goodness he is a super cool awesome guy who I have a good relationship with. 🙂
I am relieved. With a few very tiny exceptions, the worse Kris has endured is being treated as if he ceases to exist. I didn’t want him to be facing worse and by someone he used to know.
Side note- Being treated as if he doesn’t exist is not acceptable either and I worry about the long term impact that could have on Kris. It’s why I no longer attend family functions on either sides of our relatives. Watching aunts, uncles and cousins ignore and avoid Kris makes me so angry I cannot see straight.
Have a good one!