Pronouns. I’m not going to go on and on about this but I need to get this off my chest. Just spent the evening with my parents and Kris. My mother used feminine pronouns repeatedly very rarely correcting herself, even when I consistently corrected her…the entire evening……right in front of Kris. Three long years of this. I’m so over it. I honestly am. I post things on Facebook. They are ignored by family. I correct. Mom ignores it.
There is a family wedding coming up which we cannot attend. My parents offered to take him along with them and one of my sisters. Kris wants to go. I think it’s the worst possible thing. With his meds being dropped another 50, he will be hours away from home (his dad and I will be 600 miles away) with no real support system there. Since there will be the same people who were at the bridal shower where my mom misgendered Kris intentionally it stands to reason that she will do it throughout this wedding weekend. And who will correct her? Not my sister, who sat next to her at the bridal shower, mute and blank- not offering a single sign of support. Not my other sister who once said something so insensitive that Kris did not speak to her for over a year. (My sister didn’t even notice. True story.)
So, what’s the big deal? Well, exactly! What’s the big deal? Use the proper pronouns!!!
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