Friday Fuzz….on Sunday

This video was brought to my attention by greatsnaps, goodreads and me. I was so touched that she thought to share it with me and I would like to thank her! She is one of the first bloggers I found when I did the Blogging 101 challenge through Word Press and you should check out her blog when you have a minute. She writes about a variety of interesting topics and posts really cool pictures.

It has been 24 hours since I first saw this video and I can’t get it out of my mind. As you may or may not know, I have a transgender son. We found out when he was 18. He is now 21. I touch on a few signs we had when he was very young in this post- Those Early Signs. There were many signs but it was the mid-90’s and I had never heard of the word “transgender” and transgender people were not commonplace- at least not in my life. When Kris came out to us in 2011, I was vaguely familiar with the term but really didn’t get it. Even today most people don’t truly know what it means.

I admire Ryland’s parents. The video is amazing. It’s not just the transgender person who has to come out. The people close to them also have to come out to the people in their lives. This family shows incredibly courage sharing their story with the world.

Some parts of this video really strike a chord with me-

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-We also lost a few but those that stuck by us are that much more precious to us. And all the ones who think they are still here but aren’t- I don’t think people realize how important it is to be there for a family while they are helping their transgender child.

– The look in little Ryland’s eyes when he put his arm around his baby sister in the bathtub and says, “She is my sister and I am her brother.” I saw that look on Kris’s face so often- it held fear, hope, defiance- so many emotions he was unable to express.

-The unadulterated joy on his face when he was truly a boy, not just a girl trying to look like a boy. As a parent, you don’t realize that you haven’t seen your child that happy until you see that smile. It shines so bright it’s hard to miss.

-The shockingly high percentage of transgender people who attempt suicide before reaching adulthood. Like Ryland’s parents, this is a risk I am not willing to take with Kris.

This video is powerful in so many ways and I applaud them for making it. I hope that people who watch it are able to take something away from it that helps them understand better what transgender children and their families face.

9 thoughts on “Friday Fuzz….on Sunday

  1. This is very moving. People are people, aren’t we; it’s so easy, maybe lazy, to think black and white, right and wrong. Really, we come in all shapes and sizes, colours, and creeds, and genders. Go you and yours!

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  3. I really enjoyed this post because it was so interesting to see what struck a chord with you. My favorite points were when you wrote about the emotions you saw on Ryland’s face when he declared he was a big brother and the true happiness on his face (and Kris’) when they were finally able to become who they were supposed to be. These were things I didn’t notice and so it was interesting to see them from your perspective. Also, thanks for the nice mention at the beginning! 🙂

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    • I have seen that look (with all those emotions battling for control) in pictures of Kris in the early years. One of my favorites is from when he was about 3, wearing his hair up in a baseball cap (which happened way more often than I realized until I looked at pictures) and the look on his face was pure Kris. I feel like he’s saying “See, I am a boy!”

      Thank you for sharing the video with me!

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  4. The 41% attempted suicide risk they mention in the video is a combined one for transgender and gender creative people. I’ll do anything to help Jeremy feel safe.

    What I hate the most is when I share pictures of him and the person frigging recoils from my cellphone. For pete’s sake, he’s my son and he’s amazing and cute and has a gorgeous smile. Can they not just say that instead of acting like he’s going to jump out of the screen and bite them? I’ll never share that with Jeremy.

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    • Yes, you said it- they forget that he’s your son. Kris doesn’t notice when people keep their distance but I do and it makes me so mad.

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  5. I am one of those “ya, right” people when it comes to videos that supposedly bring tears to your eyes or choke you up. But this one did. I admire them for bring awareness to their son’s cause. But as a parent I know what it’s like to have a child that is not normal according to societies standards and it’s difficult to deal with sometimes. I’m not so brave. Thank you for sharing

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    • It can be very lonely when your child is not like others and if it’s in a way that makes people uncomfortable, even lonelier. I think this video is going to reach a lot of people and hopefully help.

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