K is for Kris


A funny thing happened on my way to my Friday Fuzz feature (yes, I know it’s Saturday and I’m a day late). I stumbled onto a blog by a mom, like me, who has a transgender child, like me and she refers to her child as K, yes, again LIKE ME! Her K is a daughter. Just like that, in the blink of an eye, my K needed a name of his own. Ugh. I put so much thought into picking my kids names and in a split second, I found myself trying to name a child again. So instead of finding my Friday Fuzz topic, I was looking for K boy names. I quickly learned something about myself. I don’t like many boy names that begin with K. I stumbled onto Kris and it’s a name I have liked in all of it’s forms. I might prefer Chris but in staying true to K, I can do Kris.

Not all parents of transgender kids are supportive. I have heard this time and again. I don’t understand this. This other mom who has a K kid like me, also shares my shock at hearing how many people are not there for the transgender person in their life. We have so much in common- me and this other mom. So I’m giving K a name and K is for Kris, but it’s okay. I found someone that I can hopefully add to my circle and that’s a good thing! My world has shrunk so much the past few years that I have learned that sometimes support comes from the most unexpected places. Opening myself up to new people and new experiences when sometimes I just want to crawl back into bed and hide under my covers is one of the many things I’ve learned to do in the past few years. So here goes…




10 thoughts on “K is for Kris

  1. Awww, this went straight to my heart, every bit of it! I’m sorry I just remembered to check your blog now, because it’s 12:28 a.m. and now I want to go back to the start and read everything, but I have to get up in 7 hours to get ready for work. 😦

    I’ve been so down lately and hearing from you has made a very difficult time a little better–thank you so much for that! I am so grateful to have found such lovely people through WordPress. Thank you again, and I hope you have a beautiful Sunday. ❀

    Oh–and my K is Katherine. She chose it from the brainstorming notes in her baby book from when her dad & I were coming up with ideas. πŸ˜‰


    • I’m glad I could help, if only a little. The thing about this is that you can walk into any place and say something like “I think my kid is drinking, on drugs, pregnant…..and so on” and everyone will have a good idea what that might feel like. No one knows what it is like to have a transgender child and they can’t begin to imagine. I think that’s why it really strikes a chord when you find someone who actually knows.

      Liked by 1 person

  2. I actually had a friend from high school tell me that she was transgender a few years after school had ended. She sent me a message through MSN messenger to tell me her/his name would be changing. She was so funny about it, asked if I was okay with everything. I didn’t entirely understand but hey it was her, now his decision so who was I to judge. However I think there are so many people that judge that make it makes it kind of scary. Glad to hear your circle is expanding! Support is always a great thing!


Hi! I would love to hear from you!

Fill in your details below or click an icon to log in:

WordPress.com Logo

You are commenting using your WordPress.com account. Log Out /  Change )

Twitter picture

You are commenting using your Twitter account. Log Out /  Change )

Facebook photo

You are commenting using your Facebook account. Log Out /  Change )

Connecting to %s